The Myth of Perfection

The myth of perfection is a strong one to break. There’s a desire to have everything in place, be in charge, and, well, perfect.

Presenting yourself to other people as perfect is a tough act to keep up. You can show a front that’s never out of order or messy. Always say the right thing, have the right answer, have a quick joke, know everything about anything. It’s a lot of pressure to keep up and ultimately this facade fails the perfectionist.

The end result is that the perfectionist is miserable. Standards are way too high to be met. Too much time is spent looking at the past of what went wrong and to the future of what could go wrong. This is in all effort to keep things controlled and perfect.

Living like this is miserable and someone who is battling the myth of perfection everyday.

The Myth of Perfection in Running
I’ve been injured often in running. Name an injury and I’ve probably had it. One link to my injured past is the desire for the perfect stride. It’s a wasted effort to run perfectly. Ugh.

Since September 2014 I surrendered my ideas of the perfect running form. I’m sure it’s out there but not for me to find. I stopped reading blog posts, books, articles, etc. on running form. Instead, I went to a free running form workshop at my local running store. I got some pointers on what to do and went with it.

I’m not tearing up the roads with my “perfect” form. I’m not faster but I’m happier.

I’ve accepted that I’ll probably get injured again. But now I think about ways to avoid over training and when to replace shoes.

I do the best I can and whatever happens after that just happens.

The Myth of Perfection at Home
I’m constantly seeking perfection from others. My kids, wife, and others. When they’re not perfect like I want them to be, I get all bent out of shape, cranky. Again, it’s exhausting living like this.

Now, it’s not always like this. I’m still trying to figure out why I get upset about a cabinet left open and not about toys left on the floor.

I do know that expecting perfection from everyone makes me not so fun to be around. I recognize that. Kind of like running, I’m letting go more and just going with it. Stop trying to have everything fit nicely; in it’s right place.

The Myth of Perfection in Me
If I can get over myself, then I just might move forward. I used to be worse when it came to perfection. I used to suffer from paralysis from analysis. I would just sit on things and waited when the timing was…perfect.

Before I was married, I wanted to paint my condo. It took my three months to pull the trigger to do it. I feared the disorder my living space would be in because of the paint smell, moving furniture around, and the time. Yet, I was OK with living with flesh colored walls that had yellow stains on them.

I wanted to be machine-like in how I lived my life. It worked for a while but over time machines break down. I was afraid to make mistakes or be uncomfortable. I demanded expected outcomes and feared the unknown. This mindset is crippling. Left me angry, lonely, and unhealthy.

I look like real mess, don’t I? Well, I’m drawing attention to that fact that perfectionism is a problem that creates more trouble than it’s worth. At times I’ve felt inadequate. With social media, those feelings become even greater. It’s tough not to see others portraying perfection in pictures. As a result, the myth of perfection is born and sticks around. Oh, and it’s tough to break.

Breaking the Myth of Perfection
Wait until you’re ready and you’ll run out of time

What helps me break this mindset is being present. I’m constantly reminding myself to pay attention to what’s happening. Don’t try to anticipate what’s going to happen. Avoid the should’ve, could’ve, or would’ve scenario. Live in the now in order to grow.

Mistakes will be made but it’s what happens after is what matters. This is a tough transition for me. As I write this post, I’m struggling with the challenge of letting go of being perfect.

Not every run is a perfect one, but just getting on the road is awesome. Listening to some good music on a run is fun too. Logging a few more miles toward a weight loss goal puts me in a better position than when I left the house.

The house won’t always be clean. Kids aren’t robots and stuff happens. Enjoy the moment as it happens. I’ve never met an elderly person that looks back on their life and regret not having the house always clean, or having the bills organized. Things will get done but not at the time I always want it.

I’m going to be wrong more times than I’m right. Maybe. The point is to put myself out there and see what happens. If I’m wrong, learn from it. If I’m right, learn from it. Playing it safe or living comfortably rarely leads to a richer life. Experiment and find out.

How do you deal with the myth of perfection?

Brooks Adrenaline GTS 15 Review – Little Changes for a Great Shoe

I arrived late to the party when it came to the Brooks Adrenaline GTS series. I didn’t start running in the Adrenaline until the 14 – better late than never!

Check out my other reviews of the Brooks Adrenaline GTS series.

The Adrenaline is a favorite among many runners looking for stability and cushioning. That’s exactly what drew me to this shoe. I love the balance and support the Adrenaline provides. Plus, the shoe is designed nicely without looking bulky. I recently picked up the Adrenaline GTS 15 and excited to share this review.

The Spin on the Adrenaline GTS 15
Before I get to my thoughts here’s a rundown of what the folks at Brooks marketing department are spinning about the Adrenaline GTS 15:

BioMoGo DNA midsole provides adaptive cushioning
Progressive Diagonal Rollbar for added control
Full-length Segmented Crash Pad delivers smooth transitions
Moisture-management mesh upper helps feet stay cool and dry
Bold new color choices offer style for miles
The Adrenaline GTS 15 weighs in at 11.0 ounces and has a 12mm offset.

Adrenaline GTS 15 Fit and Feel
Welcome back to reality. All this cool technology is exciting and it’s tough to really improve on an already impressive shoe.

What I like about this shoe is that Brooks hasn’t messed with the weight and the offset. If anything can be predictable about a running, make these features.

I used to run in the Mizuno Wave Inspire and then they tried to reduce the weight. This angered me. Fortunately, I fell right into the Adrenalines.

I want a durable shoe. This whole seamless upper craze is sexy but not so much when you pronate and need support.

I prefer a higher offset as it fits my stride and body type.

What I found disappointing in this shoe was the toe box. It feels narrow compared to the 14. Actually, I had blisters after my first run in this shoe. Maybe I had the false impression it would be plug and play – not the case. I wound up wearing the shoes around the house and on errands to break them in.

Eventually, I broke the shoes in and the toe box seems to be less of an issue.

I bought the shoes on Finish Line but didn’t see the warning that Brooks makes on their site. The Adrenaline 15 run about a ½ size smaller than the 14. All the more reason to trust but verify.

The shoes are now comfortable and feel closer to the 14. While Brooks recommends buying a ½ size up, give it some thought.

On the road with the Adrenaline GTS 15
Once I finally broke in the shoes, the 15’s felt more familiar. This will probably be the shoe I train in for my marathon as I find them versatile for long runs and speedwork.

I’m impressed with the traction as I’ve experienced rain, snow, and dry conditions – all in March and April! Of course at 11 ounces, I would hope that Brooks wouldn’t skimp on the sole. I found out that’s how some shoes arrive at these ridiculous shoe weights – cut a little from the bottom of the shoe.

While the Adrenaline GTS 15 doesn’t have that sexy seamless upper, it still breathes really nicely. I’d consider this a step up from 14.

The heel-to-toe transition was smooth and consistent.

The build up of the cushioning and support is still there and that’s why this shoe will continue to be a favorite of mine.

Final Thoughts
Despite the smaller toe box, I’m still a fan of the Adrenaline GTS 15. This shoe is dependable and predictable (not a bad thing). If you’re in an earlier version of the Adrenaline and what to make the move to the 15, do it! But use caution when deciding on a size.

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